Invest On Beauty

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim.

Early warning: I'm only sharing with you based on my observations, my conversations with random people and my family members inclusively, and and the analysis I made by myself.

2nd warning: Ini bukan self-reflection, bukan untuk menyuruh sesiapa meminang penulis, atau mana-mana keadaan sewaktu dengannya.Atie hanya share pengalaman berbual dengan makcik-makcik di sini okay.

Orang sekarang banyak merungut, belanja untuk kahwin sangat mahal. And I always wonder, why does this kind of thing arise?.I bet it's not only happening in Malaysia, but all over the world. So I dare myself to ask and keep asking people, especially those who're called 'mothers of daughters'.

So by the end of this entry, please, I hope u open ur mind and take things easily. Because this blog is the place to share, and this entry is to tell u what do people out there think and how do they view things, which they might be completely different than the way we do.So just be..cool, okay?.

So lets start.Remember, the public is speaking in this entry, bukan Atie okay.Im just jotting them down here.

Cuba anda tanya ibu-ibu di luar sana, yang bukan religious-type of mothers, mesti most of them akan mengharapkan anak-anak mereka dikahwinkan dengan orang senang, berkemampuan, etc. Pernah tak terfikir kenapa?.Meh Atie list down some of the reasons.

• Girls need to go to salon every month or at least once in three months. Cost sekali treatment at least rm120. Kalau anak dara dia ada masalah dandruff, atau mungkin kutu, atau rambut rosak, hairfall, or whatsoever la, cuba bayangkan how much do they cost the mother?.
• Maintain ke'slim'an badan. Lebih-lebih lagi if anak dara mereka seorang yang berisi, mothers pasti akan jadi sangat risau, and sanggup hantar anak dara mereka ke tempat-tempat macam Slim World untuk jadi slim mcm ZZ, or maybe London Treatment, etc. Guys, go end check berapa kos untuk those kind of body treatments.Mahal taw.
• Kalau gigi anak dara tak cantik, sanggup spend hundreds or thousands untuk jadikan cantik. Lepas tu si jejaka terpikat kat anak dara ni, and kantoi dia terpikat sebab gigi yang tersusun rapi. Hah. Of course la si ibu akan minta compensation. Ingat murah nak bagi gigi yang rongak dan rosak bertukar jadi cantik?.
• Apparels need to be renewed every month. Oh u knew this, didnt u?.
• Mothers hendak si jejaka membuktikan his willingness to sacrifice for their daughters. So mereka sengaja meletakkan nilai mas kahwin, dan kos belanja kahwin yang tinggi so that mereka yakin bahawa si jejaka memang mampu untuk memberi kesenangan pada anak dara mereka in future.
• Mothers tak nak anak dara mereka menjadi mangsa lelaki yang kedekut. Mungkin si ibu juga adalah FEMINIST mcm the author of Symbolic Self?.haha.
• Mungkin juga sebab mothers tahu bahawa si jejaka memang afford the high cost, so why not?. Bayangkan, kalau dah keturunan orang berada nak memetik bunga di taman, tentulah si ibu akan mengharapkan majlis yang meriah kan?.
• Banyak lagi lah rasanya sebab-sebabnya. Pergilah cari makcik-makcik random kat luar sana dan tanya sendiri.

Maka, lelaki di luar sana, bersedialah dengan kemungkinan-kemungkinan seperti ini before u plan to tie the knots with ur girl. Be mentally ready, phisically prepared, eventhough materially insufficient, because ALLAH is OUR BANKER okay!.(+_+)

Yes, the religion discourage too-high of maskahwin, sebab Islam tak ajar Muslims untuk nilai sesuatu secara materialistik, tapi yang dinilai adalah keihkhlasan, keimanan, dan ketaqwaan. Ulama' argue, mas kahwin yang terlalu tinggi boleh menyebabkan anak dara kahwin lambat and eventually berlaku banyak maksiat secara berleluasa. Itulah masalahnya, tapi adakah ibu-ibu di luar sana sedar akan perkara ni?.

And, normally those who set high price for marriage are those who seriously care about their daughters' beauty. They have invested much on the beautiness of their daughters. So that is why things like this occur. Biasanya anak-anak dara mereka memang cantiklah, tip top.. Cuma sayangnya, mereka terlalu duniawi. So people, macam mana nak bantu masyarakat ni?.

Tambah pula sekarang ada banyak sistem pelik-pelik yang Islam tak ajar, macam mas kahwin ikut negeri, etc. Government sekarang yang memang dah sedia kurang concern about religious education, and education system yang lemah, masyarakat yang sungguh kurang kefahaman tentang Islam, makin hari makin rapuhlah pendirian Islam di negara kita kan. Maka makin hari makin mahal belanja untuk memetik anak dara orang. Sudahlah kadar inflasi pun semakin meningkat, currency tak stable. haha, tak ada kaitan. Sorry.

Okay sekian sahaja perkongsian bersama masyarakat. Atie belum ada pengalaman, tapi mungkin anda berpengalaman meminjam wang dari bank untuk kahwin and sekarang semput-semput nak bayar balik pinjaman bank tu?.Silalah kongsi rungutan anda di sini kalau sudi.

Kalau yang tak berpengalaman macam Atie, risau tak bila tiba masa kita nanti?.Bersyukurlah jika anda dikurniakan parents yang memang berkefahaman tinggi tentang Islam. Bagaimana dengan yang tidak seperti parents anda?.Kesian taw, I mean kesian pihak lelaki lah.

Oh ya, one more random info, after this please be careful everytime u go to spa. Because my hairstylist told me, that there are a lot of Spa out there offer illegal service, aka DIRTY service to the customers. Dont simply go in and straight away ask for treatment. Make sure u go to the trustable and highly credible one so that u won't be facing these kind of dirty people okay. Harap maklum.

RANDOM: MJ passed away, innalillahi wa inna ilaihi raji'un. Tapi yang tak bestnya, FLY fm banyak mainkan lagu MJ, indeed, I was never his fan. Maka sangat bosan dah FLY n Hitz. Asyik dengar lagu Annie Are U Okay, Are You Okay Are You Okay Annie. Tak Best Tak Best Tak Best. IKIM pulak time tengahari asyik buat promotion products. Nak pasang CD dalam kereta sungguh tak boleh harap maklum sebab my car sangat comel sampai tak mampu nak afford MP3.